The conversation went like this: ‘So what colours are you having for your baby? What theme’. My reply went something like this……’Ummmmmmm. My little man isn’t having any theme….he’s getting a mishmash of borrowed things/ donated things and a few new things’.
What on earth am I talking about? Well here in America they have a wonderful yet somewhat humbling (when you are the recipient) tradition of hosting baby showers for you. Not just for your first baby. For every baby. Yep. They love their parties here……and along with the baby shower……most people choose special colours and or themes to go along with the stuff they would like for their babies. For example I could have chosen green colours with zoo animals as my theme – and build my nursery around those pointers.
Well this little man ain’t getting a nursery. He’s going to be sharing with a brother as soon as he is sleeping through the night. Their room is an assortment of colours and storage solutions….but it works! BUT the temptation is there to want for more for him. The magazines come in the mail full of matching furniture and co-ordinated bedding…..the stores present co-ordinated clothing options…….the whole matching stroller/carseat/ portacrib combos. It is never-ending.
But as tempting as it is. As much as it appeals to my love for things to be ‘just so’. I know it is not important. I know that it is only surface looks. Having a co-ordinated look is not going to make my child healthier, or happier, or less likely to spit up, or a better teether, or a faster feeder, or a slower feeder. My child will not be dependent on THINGS to satisfy his needs.
So much of what really matters in life, lies beneath the surface. Beneath the facades we present to people.
No I don’t have set colours for my baby. And that’s perfectly ok. What is more important to me is what is going on beneath my surface? How am I growing as a Christian? Being a better wife and mother? A better friend? More on this to come……it is my ‘thing’ at the moment.