Self-absorption is all around us. It is making me feel bitter and twisted. It really is. I can’t get away from it.
I look on facebook and it is there in people’s status comments. And then when people comment on other people’s status, some manage to somehow bring it back to themselves again. No matter what the subject matter.
I look on my twitter feed and it is there in people’s tweets. Somehow people feel obliged to comment about their lives non-stop, and often retweeting tweets that mention themselves. I find it the new form of online bragging. I’ve asked people to explain it to me, cos I thought maybe I’m just missing some kind of twitter etiquette, but so far I haven’t had a response.
I don’t know why this self-absorption irks me so. Maybe because I see it as a failure to reach out to others. Maybe it is so far from what God would have us do – to put others first. Maybe it is because I thought that more than two years down this road, in this neck of the woods I would be more established, have a better network of people around me. But I don’t. And I know that self-absorption has a lot to answer for this.
So what can I do to change my world, to overcome this self-absorption around me? Well I’m going to be a little more pro-active…..cos I’ve been grumpy and sad and a grumpy and sad Mum is no good for anyone.
Step One. I’m going to hide some people’s things from me on facebook – people that I still consider my friend, but people that bring me down with their constant self self self.
Step Two. I’m going to continue to question people’s motives. Ask myself, ask them, and ask the Holy Spirit to guide me to listen/read/ watch the right kinda stuff – to help me become more outward focussed. Because it starts with me.
Step Three. I’m going to be generous with my words of affirmation – I’m going to love on people. And show them there is more to my world, than myself and my my my. Via the forms of social media that I use and in real face to face conversations.
Step Four. We’re leaving the church we that we currently go to. We’re not church hoppers – we like the whole being planted and rooted in a church and believe it is important but we’ve been there for two years, and we still feel unconnected, unloved and unfamiliar. And we can say we’ve tried – we’ve initiated, we’ve been regular attendees and we’ve been committed. But it hasn’t worked and I had the realization last week that we are actually doing ourselves a dis-service by not having people around us to support us and love on us. Especially with being in ministry – we need those people. I know it’s not a bad thing to rely on others for prayer support and for a friendly shoulder – after all God sent the disciples out in teams of two didn’t he? It works both ways – you need input as you give out….otherwise you become stagnant. So, hopefully, we can find a body of fellowship that becomes more than a ‘we should’ that never happens.