I must confess. I have a new addiction. Its name is pinterest.com. This website works as an online pinboard where you can create your own groups of things that catch your eye – you ‘pin’ something to a board so that you can easily find it again when you want it. The ‘pin’ is a picture that is also a link to the website you need. I have boards for such things as recipes I want to cook, fun things for kids to do, things for my house if I ever own my own house etc.
While I was feeding this new addiction the other day, I came across this pin –
This quote – according to the rumour mill – is attributed to the model Kate Moss. I don’t know how accurate that is – all I know is I have seen it around before, and it looks like it isn’t going away in a hurry.
To be perfectly honest it makes me feel sick. I detest it.
As a person who has been ultra skinny, as a grown woman who has been severely underweight, I find it insulting and I think it is a terrible message to be sending to our kids, our nieces and nephews, our sisters and brothers and our cousins. Male and Female.
Before I was diagnosed with celiac disease I was super skinny. At my lightest I was 40 kgs/ 88 lbs. NOT by choice though. I must have been the only girl around that was on a ‘cream bun a day diet’. I was eating high fat on Doctor’s orders – problem was – the food that I was eating was not being absorbed due to the undiagnosed celiac disease…hindsight is an amazing thing.
Anyway – this saying ‘Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels’ doesn’t highlight or include the following points;
* Skinny hurts. When you need a belt to keep your jeans up and your hip bones are sticking out – that belt hurts. When your butt is so boney you can’t sit for long on any kind of surface – before your butt hurts.
* Skinny is cold. When you are so lacking in body fat, it doesn’t have to be very cold for you to feel extremely cold.
* Skinny makes you feel unattractive. Yes, truly. I felt most unattractive when I was super skinny. It affects every part of your life. Yes EVERY part. Read between the lines.
* Skinny makes you embarrassed when you have to shop in kids’ shops for yourself and it is hard to find clothing unadorned with bling and butterflies.
* Skinny can make for slight medical mishaps. When I had to have surgery and reacted to the anaesthetic, the anaesthesiologist came to me to apologise after the operation…’sorry I gave you a little too much…didn’t realise how light you are’……..not very comforting words…..
* Skinny can make conception a long and hard road – our Luka is proof of that – he is a miracle in those respects – well in every respect – but that particularly.
Skinny is just plain not fun.
So please dear ladies – this message is not ok. It is not something I want my nieces to hear, or my friends daughters or even my sons. We need to not be encouraging this message in any way, shape or form and I have a simple way for you all to start with this. Don’t talk about your weight in front of young ears – or even older ears. Just don’t. Don’t mention how so and so has put on a bit of weight lately. Don’t mention how your pants are a little tighter this month. Don’t bring it up. At all. There is simply no need.
There is no right response if you do. Whatever a person says in response to this is going to be wrong…..so don’t mention a thing that is weight related. If you have to discuss your weight do it with your girly friends – at the same stage of life as you – but not your kids.
I have had both my Mother and Mother in law mention weight stuff to me – regarding me and regarding themselves. It has made me want to stick my fingers in my ears and lalalalalala……Not because I am sensitive to it – but because EVERYONE is sensitive to it and any comments can be taken to imply something other than what the speaker was implying….When I was at my skinniest do you think I wanted to be reminded of it? Seeing as I didn’t like the ‘me’ as that person? No, I didn’t. And when I thankfully did put on weight do you think I wanted a reminder of that or comments on how I looked better? No, I didn’t, because that was only reinforcing how awful I felt as a super skinny girl.
So ladies – just don’t mention weight. A person struggling with weight issues is already perfectly aware of the situation. They don’t need reminding. Unless of course you suspect someone of suffering from Anorexia Nervosa – that needs intervention and attention of course. Use your noodle – I’m not saying ignore any signs of that.
Can I encourage you to read this article for more ideas on how to promote a healthy self-image.
And let’s see if we can see this message, ‘Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels’ die in this generation.