Dear Mother Friends of Mine…..

This week the interwebby welcomed and loved a certain blog post about what children really want. We applauded and shared the good news, the news that what our children really need is US. Their Mothers. This post was well written and thoroughly embraced by the Mom bloggers community. When I just checked it had been ‘liked’ 289,000 times and tweeted 6989 times.

I love the fact that this blog post is reminding us about the basics, ‘Can we remind each other that it is our uniqueness and love that our children long for? It is our voices. Our smiles. Our jiggly tummies. Of course we want to learn, improve, exercise, cook better, make our homes lovelier, and provide beautiful experiences for our children, but at the end of the day, our children don’t want a discouraged, stressed-out mom who is wishing she were someone else’.

Amen and amen.  In this day and age when we are trying to be all things to all men (and women), and technology is constantly bombarding us with more ways to be ‘more’,  it is nice to actually have someone write from the heart and say WHOA.  That’s not what Motherhood is about. And weren’t we just crying out to be told that?  Otherwise why was the post embraced so warmly?  We needed to be told that.

But, dear Mother Friend of Mine, I’d like to take this one step further.  Without placing another demand on your life, because this is indeed a freeing thing, I’d like to suggest that as well as keeping a right perspective about your importance to your family as that popular post encouraged, I would love to see more Mother Friends of mine living their lives in a reciprocal manner.

Mother Friends being real Mother Friends.  Helping each other along the way.  Supporting each other along the way.  Praying for each other along the way.  Speaking out verbal encouragement to each other along the way.  Sharing practical help to each other along the way.

Dear Mother Friends of mine, I see your discouragement when sickness comes, when children challenge boundaries, when worries come your way.  When trying to deal with the pressures you put on yourself and receive from others. I see the downcast eyes, the tears close by, the frown tugging at your face.  I hear the frustrations in your voice, the scratch at your throat as you hold in your emotions.  The inability to look outside of your world, because your inner world is taking up all of your effort and strength.

But friends, dearest Mother Friends of mine.  If you only knew what joy there was to be found by being sincerely and genuinely interested in others.  By lifting your eyes away from your own issues, and onto others’ delights and challenges, then… would find true freedom and sisterhood.

Dear Mother Friends of Mine I promise that if you show yourself to be a real friend, you will receive true friendship in return.  And that is a gift to be cherished.

Dear Mother Friends of mine, lift your head – out of your nest of diapers, games, toys and routines, turn to Him who will guide you and refresh you, and then turn to those walking the journey with you.  Mothering is so much better with sisters around you.

Dear Mother friend of mine, life was never meant to be a solo act.  Rise and smile.  Hearts lifted, together.


14 thoughts on “Dear Mother Friends of Mine…..

  1. Fiona, this is so so good. What a blessed reminder to look up and out. Over-focus on the self in any form can lead to isolation, and this is not what God desires from his children. It’s always amazing, too, when I step out of myself, even when I think I’ve got nothing (so often true), and God makes something beautiful. I have been so blessed by others stepping out of their comforts and their small, full worlds to embrace me, and I wanna keep passing it on. Thank you!

    • I so agree!! Often I see women who are suffering from depression and they are so overwhelmed with their own situation, they don’t see up and over. And it is in the up and over, that some healing does come I firmly believe. I also love this tweet I came across yesterday – ‘whenever you’re receiving praise or credit pass it on. Glory should never rest’. Love.

  2. there was a good post on earth monkey mums too about this kinda thing…

    i so loved this line: Dear Mother Friends of Mine I promise that if you show yourself to be a real friend, you will receive true friendship in return. And that is a gift to be cherished.

    i have been blest to be part of a mums group that so is seeing that in action. took some hard work to “till the soil” and get past the veneer but we have some amazing convos now in teh gruop, and outside the group, that makes me so appreciate the ability to be real and vunerable, to laugh and cry and to be supported and to support. and it makes me a better mum, a saner mum, a stronger mum, a wiser mum, with more of an emotional tank to be there for my kids and WITH my kids in teh day to day mummyhood.

    Mothering is so much better with sisters around you.

    amen sister :o)

  3. Thank you for speaking such good words! I loved that article as well, cannot (and yet can) believe it was such a sensation. We did need to be reminded of our importance personally to our families and the art of “being there as we are” for our kids. Loved, loved, loved what you added. I agree, this road was not meant to be walked alone- the solo journey is one of isolation and many times lots of guilt. Blessings and so much love is awaiting us by walking with community. Loved reading your post part of the ‘mother letters’ link up!

    • Thanks Haley. Yeah the whole community thing is such a bee in my bonnet – probably because I have had times of being in beautiful and lovely community and then times without it. Thanks for the comment and for stopping by!

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