Hagar. Now that’s a girl’s name you won’t ever see in the top 100 most popular list. Nope. It doesn’t even join the ranks of other biblical names still used today. Give me an Abigail, a Sarah, Naomi or Ruth any day. But Hagar? No thanks.
Poor lady. Yes she had an unfortunate name, but an even more unfortunate calling upon her life.
At the start of this month my dear blogger friend Ashley wrote so thoughtfully about Hagar here and I’ve been thinking about her ever since. And pondering on what it is to be seen.
You see Hagar was given to Abram as a substitute wife when Sarai wasn’t doing very well in the flourishing and multiplying department. So Hagar did what was required of her, she had no choice. Then Sarai went and beat her…..how’s that for a thank you very much? No wonder Hagar then ran away. But in her darkest hour – there an angel of the Lord met with her, comforted her and commanded her. Hagar was to go back to her mistress, to have Abram’s child and she was to call him ‘Ishamel’ (God hears). God confirmed that he had heard her woes. He had seen her tears. He did realize that life isn’t fair.
Once Hagar knew that she was being seen, she could handle life so much better.
And aren’t we just the same?
We cry out to be seen.
We desire to be understood.
We get frustrated when we feel alone. Marginalized. Not taken seriously.
Sometimes God himself steps in and puts feet to feelings….I have my own special story of what I believe to be an angel visitation when I was about to have a d&c, probably my darkest moment ever, made better because I knew I was seen. I knew I was not alone.
You see God cares for us so much more than we will ever know. He sees the words we write, he hears the words we speak. And sometimes we just need a big fat reminder of that.
Most Thursdays and Fridays I join in with Five Minute Friday, organized by Lisa-Jo Baker. A bunch of bloggers all use the same word prompt and we write for five minutes on that prompt and then click publish before we edit or think too hard about what we’ve written. It is fascinating to see what over 200 bloggers all write about, and how many different paths are taken from that one same prompt. The deal with Five Minute Friday is you link up and read what other people write and you encourage and you notice the differences. As a writer, or wannabe writer, it is a chance to be seen. And it is in the being seen, that I think makes this so popular and such a joy to be a part of. A lot of people blog for self-enjoyment, a chance to journal and a lot of people don’t have massive followings. People like me don’t get a lot of comment love on their blogs. And that’s fine – that’s not why I blog. But my point here…….why do we put our own blog address down when we comment on other people’s blogs? Why do we link up on others blogs? We simply sometimes just want to be seen. Just like Hagar. We want to know that our words matter. That what we say can encourage, can impart some love and discernment and can indeed make a difference for the better.
But I’d like to remind myself right here and now. My written words don’t make me who I am. I am not a product of my writing capability or inability.
My value comes from nothing I have done, but everything that He has done.
I am seen by the one who matters most because He loves me with an everlasting love. Not for what I do or don’t do. I am loved. I am seen.
Hagar was seen by God and that made all the difference in the world for her coping abilities.
You are seen dear friend, no matter what life is throwing you at the moment, you are seen.